At first, that seems like a pretty bad idea, and the beginning of your jail time. But what if you were right? Could you prove it?
Yes: you can prove it.Read More
Today we have a post from Kasey Keckeisen, a Police Officer, SWAT team leader, SWAT training coordinator, martial artist, and a guy I hope to meet in the near future. He’s also friends with Rory Miller and Marc MacYoung, who have written for this blog in the past. Kasey writes such insightful posts for his own blog, that I asked him to write something for us here. Fortunately, he said yes – you will almost certainly enjoy what he has to say, and I hope you’ll leave some feedback, or ask some questions below, so Kasey can follow-up with an answer. Enjoy …Read More
In the world of military strategy, Colonel Boyd had a brilliant method for teaching a decision-making “loop” used in combat. Boyd taught that we Observe – Orient – Decide – and Act. It’s that order all the time, and if we can keep our adversaries always Observing new problems we give them, we can already be Acting while they’re trying to Decide what to do about it.
Boyd flew fighter jets, and used his ideas there, then in large-scale military strategy planning. We can do that without weapons, one-on-one, too. Here’s how.Read More
Persistence is the refusal to let go or give up on something regardless of opposition. It’s a quality that most people admire and wish they had in their own lives. Persistence is part of the formula for success, after all, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.”
Sounds great – except when it isn’t.
Like when the persistent person is an ex-lover who refuses to stop pursuing you. Or an ex-business partner who continues to leave threatening messages, believing that you owe him something. Or a relative stranger who refuses to let go of the delusion that the two of you have a real relationship. In all of these cases, persistence is not admired – it’s annoying.
If so, you might be wondering how to get rid of this person once and for all.Read More
With more and more twenty- and even thirty-something-year-old males embracing the Peter Pan promise to “never grow up”, the culture is suddenly forced to deal with a new developmental stage: The adult-aged adolescent. These “guys” are old enough to act like men, they just refuse to cross the line. You might think they’re cute, and fun-loving, but as far as society is concerned, they are doing a lot more harm than good.Read More
No reflection on your sex life1 but, every night you go to bed with a human, a monkey and a lizard.
This is a model that reflects the different parts of your brain. A rough breakdown goes like this: Your Human is your thinking, rational neocortex. Your Monkey is your socio-emotional limbic system. (It’s what allows humans to function in groups.) Your Lizard is your survival-oriented hind brain and cerebellum.
This model isn’t technically accurate, but that’s OK. It’s hard to remember scientific explanations when someone is in your face, barking, howling, drooling, insulting or threatening you.
On the other hand, when someone’s acting like a pissed off monkey it’s pretty easy to remember this model. Also it’s important to know because someone making references to your testicles on your mother’s chin is trying to light up your Monkey and get you to act the same way.Read More